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We are very excited to collaborate with CRA and Conflict and Peace Specialist José Barzola for a talk story about how we support families in transition without having to go to court. ๐ถ๐ค๐
Wednesday, April 17th at 2pm
Event will be held on zoom—join us from wherever you are! Sign up for this community event via the link in our bio๐๐ฃ๏ธ
See you there!๐
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We are happy to announce our new service: Divorce 101๐ชด
Divorce can feel overwhelming, but knowledge is power. Our new service, Divorce 101, is designed to equip you with the foundational knowledge and resources needed to navigate this journey with confidence. ๐ค
๐คHere’s what you can expect:
1. Comprehensive Overview: From understanding different divorce process options to exploring legal and financial considerations, Divorce 101 provides a comprehensive overview of the divorce process.
2. Expert Facilitation: Led by experienced professionals, Divorce 101 offers insights and guidance from legal, financial, and emotional perspectives, ensuring you have the support you need every step of the way.
3. Empowerment Through Education: Our goal is to empower you with the knowledge and resources necessary to make informed decisions about your future. Whether it’s exploring mediation, collaborative divorce, or traditional litigation, we provide you with the tools to choose the path that best suits your needs.
4. Community Support: Connect with others who are on a similar journey, sharing experiences and insights in a supportive and understanding environment.
๐ค๐ชJoin us for Divorce 101 educational sessions and take the first step toward a brighter future. Knowledge really is power. Let us empower you so you can move forward in life!
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We are so excited for Jeff Smoot, one of our mediators, to speak at the Northwest Dispute Resolution Conference! ๐๐ฅณ
He will be speaking about:
“Advocacy vs. Efficacy: Are You Helping or Hindering Your Client in Mediation?” an interactive workshop where we’ll explore the attorney’s role in mediation (and tell stories about bad attorneys) and how attorneys can balance their ethical duty of advocacy with their client’s goals and interests in mediation.
“Mediating With Aloha: Hawaiian Approaches to Conflict Resolution,” where I’ll share some things I’ve learned while mediating over here these past few years including how having some Aloha Spirit can help you be a better mediator.
Way to go, we are so proud of you Jeff!
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๐ดA Metaphor for Co-Parenting
Ever noticed how palm trees sway gracefully in the breeze, yet remain deeply rooted in the ground? Here’s how they relate to co-parenting:
1. Flexibility: Like palm fronds bending with the wind, co-parents must adapt to changing circumstances while maintaining their core values and commitments.
2. Resilience: Despite facing storms and strong winds, palm trees stand tall and resilient. Similarly, co-parents must weather challenges together, remaining steadfast in supporting their children.
3. Growth: Palm trees grow tall and strong over time, symbolizing the growth and development of a healthy co-parenting relationship, rooted in trust and mutual respect.
Just as palm trees thrive in harmony with nature, co-parents can find stability and resilience in their journey together. ๐ด
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Why You Need a Co-Parenting Plan?๐๐ผ
- Clarity & Consistency
- Peace in the Home
- Flexibility
- Child-Centered Focus
- Legal Protection
Craft stability for your children’s future with a personalized plan from Family Mediation Hawaii. ๐บ๐ซถ
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Our wonderful Mari was mentioned in the Hawai’i Bar Journal! Way to go Mari, we are so proud of all the hard work you do๐๐บ๐
“O’ahu attorneys who volunteered at the Honolulu District Court and Kapolei Access to Justice rooms were honored for their service at special recognition ceremonies with Chief Justice Mark E. Recktenwald in December in the Hawaii Supreme Court courtroom.”
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At the Maui Family Court on 2/23 the presented at the Maui Family Court to judges and members of the bar regarding best practices and resources for court-involved families. No photos from court but afterward we went out for pau hana! Mahalo for the opportunity to connect and have a drink with our Neighbor Island besties!๐บ๐ซถ
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Wondering if your mediated divorce agreement will hold up? Here’s how it’s enforceable:
1. Legally Binding: A signed mediated agreement is a legally binding contract between the parties who signed it. Much like a premarital (or prenuptial) agreement, a marital agreement (also referred to as “postmarital” or “postnuptial” agreements) are permissible under Hawaii Revised Statutes Section 572-22, which allows married persons to make contracts with their spouse.
2. Court Approval: Once finalized, the agreement can be submitted as a stipulated order. In a divorce, the agreement terms are placed in the binding Divorce Decree. Once the judge signs and enters the order or decree, it can be enforced by third parties, such as HPD.
3. Adherence to Laws: You should always use a mediator with subject matter expertise to ensure your agreement is in compliance with legal requirements and meets all necessary standards. Each state has different laws so make sure the advice and counsel you receive is based on your state law.
4. Customized Solutions: Tailored to your unique circumstances, a mediated agreement addresses specific needs and concerns. Further, because all parties to the agreement sign off on the terms, these agreements are more durable and likelihood of compliance is increased.
Rest assured, your mediated divorce agreement is not just a handshake—it’s a legally binding and enforceable document. Let us guide you through the process at Family Mediation Hawaii.๐บ๐ค
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Sunsets, sea breezes, and resolutions. Hawaii is not just our home; it's the inspiration for commitment to guiding families through the mediation process. ๐ ๐
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Parenting coordination provides structured guidance, facilitated communication, and dispute resolution for co-parents navigating choppy waters. Empowering and promoting stability, it ensures a smoother co-parenting journey. Let us be your guide at Family Mediation Hawaii. โ๐
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Wishing you a Happy Aloha Friday! As the week comes to a close, remember that mediation is the path to a more serene, harmonious weekend and future. ๐ด๐ค
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At Family Mediation Hawaii, we believe in the transformative power of positive co-parenting. Our mediation services provide the support and guidance needed to cultivate harmony and collaboration, ensuring a brighter future for your family.๐ซถ๐
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Navigating the waves of change? Our mediation services in the heart of Hawai’i are designed to help your family find calmer waters. ๐๐
Reach out for information on mediation to see if it is a good fit for you.๐๐ค
โ๏ธ info@familymediationhawaii.com
โ๏ธ 808-439-8600
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Co-parenting brings its share of unexpected twists, and one such curve might be the introduction of a new intimate partner into your ex’s life. ๐๐ถ
๐Here are helpful tips as you navigate this terrain…
๐In this moment, self-reflection becomes a compass. Take the time to acknowledge and understand your own feelings. It’s okay to seek support to process these emotions.
๐ฃ๏ธCommunication is the key to successful co-parenting. Open dialogue with your ex about boundaries, expectations, and how this new dynamic might impact your shared journey.
๐ถAmidst the emotional currents, anchor your focus on the children. Ensure that the introduction of a new partner aligns with their comfort and understanding, prioritizing their well-being.
๐คFor those moments when words may feel insufficient, consider seeking the neutral ground of mediation. It provides a supportive space to discuss these complex emotions and establish a framework for healthy co-parenting in the midst of new relationships.
At Family Mediation Hawaii, we understand the intricacies of co-parenting’s ebb and flow. Our mediation services offer not just resolution but a compassionate approach to navigating change and fostering collaboration. ๐
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‘Ohana means family, and family means no one gets left behind. Our mediation services are here to ensure everyone’s voice is heard and valued. ๐คฒโค๏ธ
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Embarking on exciting journeys with your children after divorce? ๐โจ๐
As co-parents, openly communicating travel plans becomes the compass guiding these adventures. Sharing itineraries, discussing logistics, and ensuring a smooth transition for the kids – it’s all part of the journey toward harmonious co-parenting.โ๏ธ
Wondering how to establish these open lines of communication? Our mediation and co-parent planning sessions are designed to help you navigate this path. Through guided discussions and collaborative planning, we empower co-parents to create solid communication strategies and travel plans that put the well-being of the children first. From shared smiles to creating lasting memories, enjoy traveling one adventure at a time! ๐บ
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Meet the faces behind Family Mediation Hawaii! ๐บ๐๐
Dedicated to guiding families through the path of peaceful resolution, our passionate team is here to support you every step of the way. Read bios about each member of the team on our website! Please reach out with any questions or for more information about mediation. We are here to help you. ๐ค๐
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We got published! Read our article in the Hawaii Parent magazine๐บ Mahalo @hawaiiparent
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โ ๏ธUnderstanding the nuances of legal and physical custody is vital to creating a balanced co-parenting plan. Let’s break it down:
๐ Legal Custody: It’s the authority to make decisions about a child’s upbringing, including education, healthcare, and religious practices. Shared legal custody involves both parents actively participating in major decisions.
๐ Physical Custody: Where does the child reside? What is the day-to-day schedule? When parents share physical custody, children spend significant time with both parents, fostering a sense of stability and continuity. It doesn’t have to be 50-50…when children spend at least 30% of their time with a parent, they have meaningful access and can benefit from each parent’s support and love.
Balancing these elements ensures a comprehensive co-parenting plan that nurtures the child’s well-being and maintains a strong connection with both parents.
Curious about finding the right balance for your family? Our mediation services are designed to facilitate these discussions, guiding you towards a customized arrangement that suits the unique dynamics of your ‘ohana. ๐บ๐คฒ
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Communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about connecting, understanding, and solving problems together. ๐ฃ๏ธ๐ก
Embracing positive communication sets the stage for effective problem-solving.
Positive communication isn’t just a tool; it’s the cornerstone of successful mediation. Let’s communicate, collaborate, and craft solutions together! ๐คฒ๐ค
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๐ถParallel Parenting is not about disengaging; it’s about redirecting focus to the children’s well-being and protecting them from the toxic nature of conflict. It allows parents to raise healthy children while recognizing and respecting their parenting differences.๐
Parallel Parenting minimizes direct interactions between co-parents, alleviating tension and creating a more stable environment for children. Although a lack of communication between parents may not seem ideal at first, the research shows that shielding children from the harms of parental conflict is more important for long term growth and development.
Also, it establishes clear boundaries, reducing the emotional toll on both parents and preventing the spillover of conflict into the children’s lives.๐
In the midst of high-conflict parenting, the concept of Parallel Parenting emerges as a beacon of harmony for the well-being of the little hearts caught in the storm. ๐ช๏ธ๐ธ
At Family Mediation Hawaii, we help families transition from turbulence to tranquility, finding a balanced approach that puts the kids first. ๐ค
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Such fun presenting to the @rotaryclubofalamoana on Jan 11! It was an honor to share our work with families with such good people.โบ๏ธ
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It can be beneficial to gather every year to reflect, connect, and plan for the future. Our Annual Co-Parent Conferences are more than meetings—they’re moments of collaboration and growth. ๐ฑ๐
We invite you to make a goal this year to prioritize an annual conference with your co-parent.
These conferences are a testament to the power of working together for the well-being of our children. Here’s to another year of unity, understanding, and positive co-parenting! ๐ค๐
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In the world of mediation, how we express ourselves matters.๐ฏ Using ‘I’ statements is a powerful tool to promote understanding without blame:
Instead of “You make me feel___.”
Try “I feel ___ when___.”
โบ๏ธBy framing your thoughts this way, you’re sharing your perspective without pointing fingers, fostering an atmosphere of openness and collaboration. Let’s communicate with compassion and build bridges toward resolution. ๐ค๐
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๐ค Custody Evaluators (or Best Interest Fact Finders in Hawai’i):
๐ Who Are They?
Professionals appointed by the court to assess families and make recommendations regarding child custody arrangements during divorce or separation.
๐ What Do They Do?
Their primary task is to gather information about the family dynamics, parent-child relationships, and overall living conditions. This often involves interviews, observations, and sometimes psychological assessments.
๐ค Why Are They Involved?
Courts may enlist custody evaluators when parents can’t reach an agreement on custody arrangements. Their impartial assessments provide valuable insights for the court to make informed decisions in the best interests of the child.
โ๏ธ How Can Mediation Help?
While custody evaluators play a crucial role, many families find success in resolving custody matters through mediation. Mediation empowers parents to collaborate, ensuring the final decisions are crafted with their unique family dynamics in mind.
At Family Mediation Hawaii, we guide families through the complexities of custody matters, offering support and solutions tailored to your needs. ๐ค๐ค
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In the world of mediation, emotions are the threads weaving through every conversation. Here’s why embracing emotional awareness is essential:
๐คฒ Building Bridges with Empathy: Recognizing and understanding your emotions creates bridges of empathy, fostering genuine connections with others.
๐ฃ๏ธNavigating Complex Terrain: Mediation often traverses emotional landscapes. Being emotionally aware helps navigate these terrains, creating a constructive environment for dialogue and resolution.
๐ช Opening Doors to Creativity: Embracing emotional awareness opens doors to creative solutions. Authentic expression of needs fosters an atmosphere of mutual respect and understanding.
๐ก Self-Reflection Illuminates Paths: Understanding your emotions enables self-reflection—a powerful tool for personal growth. As we navigate mediation challenges, self-awareness lights the way to resolution.
Emotional Awareness is transformative and our mediation approach is rooted in understanding, empathy, and collaborative solutions that promote peace and wellbeing for your children.
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๐ฃ๏ธDivorce is a significant life change, and how parents handle it profoundly influences their children’s well-being. Peaceful parents help cultivate the emotional security of their children as they are healthy role models for them. ๐ฒ๐
A peaceful divorce lays the foundation for healthier long-term emotional well-being in children, fostering resilience and adaptability.๐
We understand the profound impact of divorce on families. Our mediation services are designed to prioritize the well-being of your children, fostering an environment of harmony and support. ๐๐ค
Let us know if you have any questions or are interested in discussing mediation. ๐ค๐
We are here to help.
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๐ผ Embarking on the mediation journey? Preparation is the key to a successful and constructive session. Here are some topics to think about to help cultivate a smooth mediation. ๐๐ค
Remember, you’re not alone in this. Our mediation experts are here to guide you every step of the way. Let’s create a path toward resolution together! ๐ค๐ค
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Step Inside Family Mediation Hawaii!๐ช๐
Welcome to our mediation haven. This is the space where resolutions take root and harmony blooms. ๐บ
We believe in creating an environment where families can navigate change with support and understanding. Mediation is flexible and can be molded to best fit the needs of your family.๐ค
You can choose to meet online or in-person, in the same room or separate, with an attorney or without. Mediation is a flexible process. The most important thing is for you to feel safe and supported so you can make GOOD DECISIONS.
We want to help you go through the process as smoothly as possible. For more information, reach out! ๐
Email๐ง info@familymediationhawaii.com
Or send us a DM!
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๐บ๐ Mele Kalikimaka from Family Mediation Hawaii!
Wishing you warmth, joy, and harmony. May you and your loved ones enjoy love and aloha together.๐ค
Here’s to a festive season and a new year filled with love and understanding! ๐๐ค
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Navigating Holidays with Organized Schedules! ๐๐๏ธ
‘Tis the season for joy and togetherness! ๐ Yet, we know managing schedules during the holidays can be a juggling act. That’s where effective co-parenting comes in. ๐คนโ๏ธ๐
Let’s work together to create a holiday schedule that brings smiles to everyone’s faces. From festive gatherings to special moments, our mediation services can help you organize and prioritize, promoting a season filled with joy and shared memories. ๐คโค๏ธ
Happy Holidays!
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Planning a trip? Don’t forget to keep your co-parent in the loop! ๐
Communication is key, especially when it comes to shared parenting responsibilities. Informing your co-parent well in advance ensures a seamless experience for everyone involved. Let’s make co-parenting as smooth as possible. ๐๐ค
Here’s to open communication and stress-free journeys! ๐๐ช
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We would like to introduce another important member of our Family Mediation Hawai’i team.๐ค๐บ
Meet Amella!๐
Amella Peña is a trained mediator and conflict resolution practitioner. Her passion for mediation sprouted while studying Intercultural Peacebuilding at Brigham Young University – Hawai’i in Lฤสปie, O‘ahu. She did close to 100 hours of mediation certification training studying narrative mediation, cultural mediation, and hivฤ pacific model of mediation. Earlier this year she worked with Hivฤ training high school students in Auckland, New Zealand to mediate.
She comes from a culturally mixed family including indigenous descent of Venezuela and european descent. Growing up with different cultures has broadened her perspective and helped her see how people can work together to collaborate through differences.
In her free time she enjoys teaching yoga and mindfulness classes, spending time in nature, and surfing.
Amella is a strong believer that mediation can help people have difficult conversations in an amicable way. It can be a sustainable path to work through things and walk away with more healing and peace.
๐ฃFor more information contact us at ๐ง info@familymediationhawaii.com
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In mediation, we focus on the path ahead, not the footsteps behind. ๐พ
Litigation is about the past. Let go of the history and envision a brighter future.๐ Mediation is about crafting solutions that propel you forward, creating a foundation for a new chapter filled with hope and possibilities. ๐ค
Where do you want to be in one year? Five years? Ten years? Your future starts here. Let’s shape it together.๐ค๐บ
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We would like to introduce another important member of our Family Mediation Hawai’i team.๐ค๐บ
Meet Mari!๐
Mari Kishimoto Doi is a trained mediator, and family law attorney. Prior to joining Family Mediation Hawaii, Mari practiced exclusively in family law litigation for 13 years where she handled all areas of family law including divorce, custody, child support, guardianship and adoptions appearing regularly in Family Courts throughout the State and in the Child Support Enforcement Agency. During her practice, Mari recognized the value of mediation and assisting families toward creating a sustainable resolution to fit their family and prevent further litigation.
Mari is originally from Hilo on the Big Island. She earned a B.A. from the University of Hawaii at Manoa majoring in political science and later earned her J.D. from the William S. Richardson School of Law. Following law school, she served as a law clerk to The Honorable Derrick H.M. Chan (Ret.).
Mari’s mediation training includes Pepperdine Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution and Mediation Center of the Pacific Basic and Advanced training, and Mediation and Conflict Management Master Class.
Mari has served as Voluntary Settlement Master for the Family Court of the First Circuit. She also volunteers with the Kapolei Access to Justice Room, Hawai’i State Bar Association, and Volunteer Legal Services of Hawai’i. Mari has been recognized for her pro bono service by the Hawaii Access to Justice Commission since 2014. Mari was a presenter at the 2022 Hawaii State Bar Convention, the 2022 and 2023 Hawaii All Military Legal Assistance Conference, and the 2022 Hawaii Behavioral Health and Wellness Conference. Mari was named to the Super Lawyer’s 2016-2019 Hawai’i Rising Stars List.
Mari spends her free time running, chasing after her daughter (and husband), and trying to keep her house plants alive.
๐ฃFor more information or to connect with Mari for mediation contact us at ๐ง info@familymediationhawaii.com
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The journey through divorce can be emotionally taxing. It’s important to prioritize self-care.๐
After those long, productive mediation sessions, take a moment to rest and recharge. Whether it's a cozy night in, a peaceful walk, or simply enjoying your favorite book, give yourself the space to reflect on the progress made and the positive steps toward resolution. ๐คโบ๏ธ
Remember, taking care of yourself is an essential part of the process. ๐๐ค
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We are grateful for our Family Mediation Hawai’i team this holiday season! Please allow us to introduce ourselves to our Instagram ‘ohana.๐ค๐บ
Meet Katie!๐
Katie Bennett is a trained mediator, family lawyer, educator, social worker, & child advocate with many years experience settling disputes in the areas of divorce, paternity, guardianship, adoption, & child welfare.
Katie has a proven track record of helping families have difficult conversations and reach agreements concerning the care, custody, & support of children. In addition to her private mediation practice, Katie regularly mediates for the State of Hawai’i Family Court of the First Circuit’s O’ahu Child Welfare Mediation Program at the Ronald T.Y. Moon Judiciary Complex in Kapolei.
โLicensed to practice law in Hawai’i since 2005, Katie is a member of the Family Law, Child Law, & Alternative Dispute Resolution Sections of the Hawai’i State Bar Association, the Hawai’i Association for Conflict Resolution, the Association of Family & Conciliation Courts & serves on multiple non-profit boards, including Hale Kipa & Sutter Health Kฤhi Mลhala. Katie also serves on the Family Court’s Child Support Guidelines Task Force and the Child Custody Evaluation Standards Committee.
Katie believes that litigation is not always the right solution for families. Parents are not adversaries and have a shared interest in raising well-adjusted children. The research is clear: it is not divorce or separation that hurt children, rather conflict between parents is what creates bad outcomes. Amicable separation is possible…it doesn’t have to get ugly. ๐ For more information or to connect with Katie for mediation contact us at ๐ง info@familymediationhawaii.com
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We are so grateful to announce that we are a 2023 #highfivegrant semi-finalist. Mahalo nui loa to the High Five Grant for Moms and the generous sponsors for the grant to grow Family Mediation Hawaii and help families & children in our community. Aloha๐๐บ๐
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Are you feeling nervous before going into mediation?๐ฌ๐ฐ
Here are some helpful tips to invite peace in before you step into the mediation room:
1. Mindfulness. Take a few minutes to sit quietly, breathe deeply, and center yourself. It can help calm pre-mediation nerves.๐ฎ๐จ
2. Connect with nature. Spending time outdoors can be therapeutic. Take a walk or sit outside. Nature has a way of soothing the soul.๐
3. Consider a safe space. If doing a zoom, choose a mediation location that makes you feel comfortable and relaxed. It can make a big difference.๐๏ธ
These tips can help you find a sense of calm and clarity before heading into a mediation.
If you found this helpful, share it with someone who might need it๐๐ค
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At Family Mediation Hawaii, we understand that your children are your top priority. Their well-being and happiness are at the heart of what we do. ๐
In mediation, we'll work together to create a nurturing, supportive environment for your kids during challenging times. It's not just about resolution; it's about their future. ๐ค๐บ
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Divorce can be tough on everyone, especially kids. ๐ถThere’s a more peaceful way to go through it, and it’s called family divorce mediation. In mediation, a neutral third party—the mediator—helps the couple work through issues like child custody, property division, and finances. ๐ค
Goal: a fair, amicable agreement that puts the well-being of the children FIRST๐
Mediation is a more peaceful path to closure, healing, and a brighter future for everyone. It doesn’t have to get messy.๐
Family Mediation Hawaii is here to guide you through mediation! If you found this info helpful, share it with someone who might need it. Mahalo
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Co-parenting is a journey, and just like any road trip, it's essential to have regular check-ins. ๐บ๏ธ๐ฃ
We do Annual Co-Parent Planning Sessions to help reach agreements on scheduling, pick ups/drop offs, holidays, travel, and any other parenting decisions. We do this because we know that it’s not divorce/separation that harms kids, it’s PARENTAL CONFLICT that creates bad outcomes for the kiddos we love. Life is busy when you’re parenting from two homes and it helps to have regular check-ins where parents can discuss and plan. These sessions help you and your co-parent align your goals, share insights, and ensure a smoother path ahead for your children. ๐๐
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SO grateful for the opportunity to participate in this joint conference with the Hawai'i Psychological Association, National Association of Social Workers - HI Chapter, and Hawaiian Islands Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Always the best time working with these ladies! - Katie ๐๐ @nasw_hawaii @riedlyoung @stacyfukuhara @allanacoffee
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This Halloween, let's talk about what truly haunts families during divorce - fear, uncertainty, and conflict. ๐ป But, there's no need to be spooked! Our mediation services are here to turn those fears into a more peaceful and harmonious future. ๐ฆ๐
We hope you have a Happy Halloween!๐
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๐ The Silent Witnesses: Kids
Think your kids can't hear you when you're arguing? Kids have a sixth sense when it comes to tension in their home, even if we try to hide it. As we choose to handle divorce peacefully, it's not just a choice for us; it's a powerful difference for our little ones. ๐
Let's be their role models of resilience and cooperation. Our actions speak louder than words. It’s empowering to show them that even in difficult times, love and understanding can prevail. ๐ช๐ค
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Divorce is a personal journey, and whether you prefer in-person sessions or the convenience of online video calls, we're here to guide you.๐ป๐ฅ
While the traditional face-to-face meetings have their charm, our online mediation services offer flexibility for divorcing couples. Choose what suits your needs, and let us help you find the path to a brighter future. ๐ค๐
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So honored to speak at the annual Brain Injury Association of Hawaii's luncheon. Was able to share our son's medical journey and be inspired by the stories of so many others! Big MAHALO to @drallanacoffee for inviting me. Such a great cause and valuable service to our community. - Katie Bennett ๐๐
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โ ๏ธDivorce doesn’t need to be adversarial, it can be a collaborative process of discovery figuring out a peaceful solution.
Whether you are starting the divorce process or at the end of it, it's always a good time to remind yourself that you can choose peace as your focus during this process. It can make the world of a difference for you and your children. ๐
We want to help you go through this divorce process as smoothly as possible. Please reach out with inquiries๐ Aloha๐ค๐ฝ
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Therapy: Even superheroes need a sidekick during divorce! ๐ฆธ๐ฆธโ๏ธ๐ฆธโ๏ธ๐๏ธ
Having a good therapist can make a huge difference in the length and cost of divorce. Divorce is a difficult adjustment. Get the resources you need to be your best self. You don’t have to go through it alone!๐ค
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๐๐ผ๐ฐ Don't Play Hide and Seek with Your Assets
Be transparent! Hiding assets and income might seem like a smart move…you are not the first divorcing individual to think this.๐ญ A rational spouse may feel compelled to go to court and utilize expensive discovery tactics, such as a forensic accountant, to uncover hidden income or assets. ๐ธ๐
At Family Mediation Hawaii, we emphasize the importance of open and honest communication during divorce mediation. It's not just a smarter move; it's a more compassionate one too. ๐ค๐ค
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Starting the journey of mediation doesn't always require complete mutual agreement from both sides. We believe in the transformative power of mediation to help shift perspectives and ultimately find common ground. ๐๐ค
Our experienced mediators are here to navigate you through this process of change, creating a path toward resolution and harmony. We help parents build child-focused agreements based on their mutual love of the child they share. Trust the process!๐ค
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Wondering how long it takes to get divorced? The answer varies depending on your unique circumstances. ๐ค
Divorce timelines can range from a few months to over a year, influenced by factors such as choosing to litigate vs. mutual agreement, complexity of asset division, and child custody arrangements. Once your uncontested divorce by affidavit documents are submitted to the Family Court, a judge will generally sign off on a divorce in 6-12 weeks.
Remember, it’s not about the duration; it's about the quality of the resolution. Mediated agreements are often more durable because when people are empowered to make their own decisions, they are more likely to adhere to them ๐๐ค
We are here to streamline the process, helping you achieve a fair and efficient resolution tailored to your needs.๐ค๐
Reach out with any questions or to see if mediation is the right solution for you! info@familymediationhawaii.com
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Children go through difficult emotions during a divorce too. ๐ถ๐ Children are often the unseen, unrepresented, and are the most at-risk people in family cases. It is critical that their best interests be the foundation of any co-parenting agreement! ๐
Here at Family Mediation Hawaii we prioritize your children's wellbeing in our mediations. We are here to help! ๐ค
Feel free to reach out for more information about mediation.๐
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Mediation empowers parents to control the terms of their divorce or custody agreement. ๐ค
A neutral third person serves as a mediator to encourage and facilitate the resolution of a dispute. A Mediator’s objective is to help the disputing parties reach a mutually acceptable, voluntary agreement that can be enforced later. ๐ค
Mediation is… โ
- a voluntary and confidential process
informal and non-adversarial
Mediation is not…๐ซ
- therapy or counseling
If you are thinking about mediation, don’t hesitate to reach out. We are here to help!
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Katie Bennett, founder of Family Mediation Hawaii, has put her heart into her work to help children have happy childhoods and less stressed parents as they go through an amicable divorce and separation process.
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Katie shares her WHY for what she does:
“Romantic relationships don’t always last, but parents are forever. Families in transition need support to better negotiate co-parenting from separate households. Parents have a shared interest in raising healthy, happy humans”
- Katie Bennett
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Aloha!๐๐บ We are Family Mediation Hawaii based in Honolulu, Hawai’i on the beautiful island of O’ahu. We are here to help navigate you through a collaborative, uncontested divorce with the goal of helping your children have a happy childhood. ๐ถ
Reach out with any questions or to see if mediation is the right solution for you! info@familymediationhawaii.com
Mahalo!
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